Wrong information or no Information!

We often think we are better than we actually are and we look for ways, comments and means to find justification for our pre-existing beliefs.  We tend only to notice a few things around us and in front of us, but we don't know how to make absolute judgements.  We think we are doing the best in a situation, but end up hurting those around us, because we place more emphasis on having our own needs and desires met, to be able to prove that we are as good as we believe that we are.  Because of this, our decisions are often guided by emotions and the way people around us are behaving, meaning that if someone is saying and doing the right things around us, we tend to buy into it, because it makes us feel good, but the moment someone ventures to offer an honest opinion about us, we are often affronted and either react or simply shut down, in a manner that we will be insulated or protected from this so-called "negative view".  We should all have someone, that we can ask for a true perception of us and one who will be willing to give an honest opinion about our strengths and weaknesses.  It may take courage to hear it from a friend, but that is the only real way we can grow and over throw the incorrect views of ourselves, or more importantly the way we think that we are performing well, when in fact we have missed the ball entirely.  We all like to think that we are rational and clear in our thinking, but in fact most people are not so prone to meticulous assessments of themselves.  Mostly we tend to look for shortcuts guided by emotions to make decisions and this actually prevents us, from being rational in the first place.  Our decisions become limited to the thing that springs into our mind first and we utter it so fast, that we forget to think it through, especially if it appears that we will be spared criticism, or problems.  We become susceptible to flattery and 'liking bias' where someone is similar to us and thus we believe that they must therefore like us.  We make inferences and presumptions and do this because of things we have heard from others and experiences we have heard about, but very seldom on actual facts.  It is far more effective in life, thus to stop seeking the perfect decision, because this is basically impossible, but rather strive for a good choice which is one that we can grasp and learn to love in the circumstances.