Mirror Mirror on the wall, whose decision is this after all?

Sometimes we have to make decisions, which are neither popular or pleasing, but which affect our lives directly.  I am not sure that we should ever feel bad for making a decision about our own life, which upsets other people.  We are surely not responsible for their happiness, but we are most certainly responsible for our own happiness.  To live in misery or discontent for the sake of their happiness, brings into question whether they really should be playing a direct part of your life.  Self preservation is very real in today's terms, where business honesty and integrity is at an all time low.  Assistance offered is seen as looking for an angle and taking initiative as looking for a favour.  There are just so many negatives for every positive action, that many times people are swept up in the dreams and decisions of others instead of focusing on what lies before them.  Perceptions are formed and it is very difficult to trust to the degree where one can simply take a comment or advice, at face value.  But as much as teamwork and partnerships are very important, so too is the ability to sometimes make our own decisions and to go through situations rather than to stop short, because of what others may think or how their lives may be affected or impacted by our decision.  Ultimately we need sometimes to make decisions for our own self protection or even relevance and the ability of those close to us, to discern this need and to offer support and understanding, goes a long way.  We may have our reasons why we don't think it is a good idea or a correct decision, but we sometimes need to just be there as a support rather than as the one taking the circumstance of another and imposing our needs and requirements into that situation.  The next generation needs to also have the confidence to make decisions and not feel that they are so under equipped and incapable that the decision must be made for them.  We still need to empower the youth and not just make the decisions for them even if it is easier said than done.  We are often guilty of micromanaging every decision and we do so in the name of protecting others and yet we end up with unfulfilled goals and bitter people, who have never sensed failure and the ability with others by their side to rise above those negative and tough times and to stand up firm and better equipped.  We need to take responsibility for decisions we make and support others to do the same - simple isn't it?.