Don't just stand there... come in!

I came across the following saying and at first thought that it may be somewhat harsh, but on further reflection, it is worthy to note and consider and has some relevance to the world we live in today.  It states, "If you want to be part of my life, then the door will always be open.  If you want to leave my life, again the door will always be open, but don't stand in the doorway, because you are blocking the traffic".  The essence of relationships is to ensure, that we invite those that are closest to us into our "space" and that we are willing to be open to give and to receive.  This is difficult, when I look at the youth of today and how they struggle with closeness and spending quality time with one another, due to social media influences, the pace of life and the demands of work and societal expectations.  This means that many times they are hesitant to open up fully for fear of the repercussions when it comes to comments, on social media and via the Internet.  Even in business the integrity is often missing and thus people put up walls and screens so that one cannot really see what they are going through.  You have to be careful to expose yourself too much, because this can be used against you, or even result in presumptions and stigmas, which are not easy to refute.  It therefore takes courage to leave the door open, but there is certainly nothing better than to have the ability at times to know that there is a place or a person that you can fully trust and who will not judge you at the first sign of difficulty.  On the other side of the coin those that are not interested in being in our lives quickly show their true colours and one learns with experience (that is a nice way of saying when you get older) that it is not worth wasting good and precious time on circumstances that will not change and which can only cause frustration, pain or difficulty.  The faster these things are let go from your life, the better and holding on to grudges, harbouring ill feelings and making yourself sick with anger or bitterness, only ends up making you feel bad, whereas the cause, is often oblivious to the affect on your life.  However, many people get caught in the doorway, where they are neither fully committed to the relationship or they have doubts and they end up being too "soft" or "sympathetic" or "respectful" to say something, so the air is filled with tension or the atmosphere is uncertain.  We cannot decide if we should say something for fear of hurting them and they end up hanging around with neither party gaining any substance from the relationship.  This is where having a person or two that Speaks their mind and breaks the uncomfortable moment is invaluable and refreshing and they are certainly to be cherished and admired for the ability to cut through the silences and help you to clear the doorway of baggage and assist you to make the right choices that ensure that the doorway remains open, so that through it we can fulfil our goals and dreams.