Are you to be the Judge?

We need to be careful before we judge others, because we are all a little $#¥€ up ourselves.  We all have things in our lives that affect us and hurt us and prevent us from fulfilling our full potential and daily life and its circumstances have a profound effect on us.  We are influenced by family, friends, clients and our surroundings, all of which can at a time influence the way we act and feel.  We need to try to be accommodating of others, even if we think that they have either a lesser intelligence, or fewer means, or less experience.  Basic manners and the ability to treat all people with respect, is a very necessary and desired quality especially in our country.  It amazes me how often we think we are doing just fine and we can really offer advice and example to others, only to find that circumstances change and we are the ones in need of the help and support.  If we have been arrogant and proud, then chances are that others will not be running to assist and we will be left to our own devices.  Yet if we have tried in humility and with a teachable spirit, to engage with others, then chances are they will be able to associate with us and step in to help when our tough times come.  We do not always truly know what it is, that is happening behind the walls and guards that people have placed around them and they will not easily open up a door, to let you in, unless you are someone that they can see will not betray their trust and who will not show a predisposition to judge them, no matter what the situation is.  Although this is a lot more difficult to execute than to write down on a paper, you may find a few such people that cross your path in life and who are brave enough, to accept you as you are and what you may be going through.  Not everyone can also handle the information that is given to them and they succumb to the weaknesses of "skinner", disapproval and emotional, rather than rational advice.  Do not in turn judge them for this, but try to understand that you can only have  a few confidants in your life and you too can only be something to a few people and not to all that cross your path.  Try to be selective and respectful and you will be the 'reasonable judge' and not the 'judge and executioner'.