Bounce and Splash

Why is it that some people feel compelled to continuously try to prove their worth even though they may be entirely competent at something.  The slightest comment or criticism or even a misplaced or insensitive word can result in them feeling like they have to refute the statement or reject the negative feeling that creeps up inside them.  How much time is spent pondering happiness and success instead of actually achieving it. Having the ability to flush negative feelings or comments and to rest in the current circumstances of ones life is very important to maintaining balance and a better understanding of oneself.  We are clearly not all equal in skill and experience and talent and yet some adjust so much better to negativity and the harsh realities of peoples opinions and nature to hurt and exploit others for their own gain.  Human nature is what it is and it is not easily changed so the person who is able to adapt and let things go like water off a ducks back are usually those that have less sleepless nights and are strangely content in their circumstances. The perfectionists are there to constantly strive to do things exactly correct and in  so doing often feel the criticism and rejection a lot sooner.  Being a person who rather avoids confrontation can result in real discontent and frustration and cause distraction where others may be oblivious to the negative comment and simply continue as though no words of negativity have been ushered.  Self belief is a very valuable asset to have and if it does not come naturally to your personality, it is still helpful to consider in the longer term trying to establish this skill by whatever manner we can because when we seem to be continuously flawed by setbacks this resilience and ability to bounce back will come in handy.