Three types of People.

It is important never to forget 3 types of people in your life.  Firstly those who helped you in difficult times.  It is important to celebrate them and be grateful for every act of kindness and support.  It may be that they could not always do everything you wanted, or hoped, but as long as they gave of themselves fully to you, then they are worth remembering and being grateful for.  Perhaps it was quite unexpected as to how they appeared in your life and perhaps it is an old friendship,  it does not really matter.  What matters most is that at a time when you needed something important to you, they were there.  It is not even about reciprocity at the time because your needs may be more than theirs at the time, so it is not a question of 'one for one' where you help me and I help you.  Our lives go round in circles and so it is, that when that wheel turns, maybe you will be lucky enough to give them your support and love.  But this is not automatic because we do not know at the time of crisis where we will be.  We may want to help, but the circumstances are not possible and they end up getting support and love from someone else.  That is also fine, as long as when you identify that you are in a position to help someone, that you do so in such a way that it will be remembered forever by the that person. The second type of people are those that left you in difficult times.  This can be for a variety of reasons, like getting too busy, or distances or change of relationship, maybe you no longer have the same interests or values have changed, due to finances or misunderstanding, it relates to choices and the circumstances in our lives at the time.  To forgive and forget is much harder than the words off a tongue, but I do think that forgiveness is often more achievable than forgetting.  Memories run deep and return often and closure is far more difficult than appears, but the reality of life, is that usually when people leave you there may be an opportunity for someone else to be there as support and friend.  It would be easy to begrudge and berate those that leave you, but only do so if you have considered your own actions and choices and how this may have impacted on their decision to leave. Finally, there are those people in your life that put you in difficult times.  It is these people who, once identified, you can and should ensure are cut out of your life.  They will neither help you in difficult times, nor will they even be in a position to have contributed and then left.  They will not enhance your life and they will not populate your life with love, joy, peace, happiness, passion or good old fun.  They will demotivate you, and restrict you and hold you back from everything that you can achieve, because it suits them to do so.  Such people should not affect your life, or be allowed to influence your life because that would be giving them too much credit for  impacting you.  They should simply be released and forgotten and you can move on to a new day, without any fear that the sun will rise and life will continue.