Expect to have Standards!

Sometimes we just need to take a moment to think.  We can become embroiled in the business of life, the obstacles of work, or the difficulties of relationships.  We can become over committed to a situation and even though commitment is very often needed to make a situation a reality, it can be that we are so focused on a singular result that we slip away from reality and into a world of dreams and fairy tales.  We may need to be brought back to reality or Terra Firma as my grandfather used to say and gain a little perspective into what the difference is, between standards and expectations, when it comes to our relationships and business endeavours.  Expectations are very often linked to assumptions of how people should react, what we think they should do in a given situation and how we would expect them to treat us.  But realistically our expectations hold us back in the end, because we will spend more time in the end picking up the pieces of misunderstandings, unfulfilled dreams and missed connections, while we would be far better off to focus our attention on standards which are measurable and achievable and can help us to attune ourselves to the realities of our circumstances and to forge genuine and meaningful relationships, rather than open ended stabs at what may or may not be the best, in our situation.  When we chose to drop our expectations, possibilities open up to us, some of which may not be the best for us, our relationships, or our business.  However it is almost without fail that if we drop our standards then trouble in a variety of forms is not far away.  Our standards need to be maintained and developed and it may take time and a whole lot of effort, but once you have determined the standards you wish to maintain then failure to meet them is no longer an option.  You will need to make decisions which will seem impossible and expectations will be eating at you from various sources, but if you are committed to the standards, then you will find a way to make them happen no matter what the price.