Looking too Deeply can be a Blurr

Sometimes what you are looking for, comes when you are not looking at all.  And how often do we look deeply for something and yet it always seems a finger tip away.  This is so often true and in so many ways.  We tend to try to make sure that we control circumstances and sometimes we are so desperate for a particular outcome, that we place too much emphasis on it, or push so hard that the outcome simply becomes less possible, than we could ever imagine.  How many times do we try to make a result from a particular set of circumstances believing with great and good intentions that this outcome is right for ourselves and very often for someone else dear to us.  We become completely unbending in our pursuit of a particular result and we make judgement calls and presumptions to suit the result, that we so dearly want.  But in my experience this tends to result in the worst possible result because any thing that does not fall into the thinking we have constructed and decided, will seem like a complete failure.  This usually leads to major frustration and feeling that you have tried so hard and yet you deserve a better result.  But by trying to project your own desires and needs onto someone else or onto a set of results that you wish to happen, you will encounter resistance from the person and life itself because it means that it is not their will, but yours which is being forced onto them.  They (life) will resist and hold back and question your motives and you give them the opportunity to rethink their next move and what lies in their future.  It is for this reason that one should not easily make a decision based on what you believe to be the best result, but rather focus more on the situation you are facing and make a decision based on the facts of the given situation.  In other words, focus on what you are working towards and what you are seeking to achieve and let the rest of the surrounding circumstances fall into your ambit rather than reaching for them and hanging onto them to the detriment of yourself and others.  Depending on the type of person that you are, you may be severely tested to get through times like this, when your whole heart and mind and being "knows" what the best result is, but it is almost a guarantee that in that situation, if you try to enforce the decision, it will be withheld from you for longer than you can imagine or backfire for good.  You will need to stay true to the basics and maintain a positive attitude throughout and maybe (but not likely) one day you will see the result that you wanted almost as surely when you least expect it.